{"id":2382,"date":"2017-03-26T07:51:24","date_gmt":"2017-03-26T15:51:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.chrisrivard.com\/?p=2382"},"modified":"2017-03-26T07:51:24","modified_gmt":"2017-03-26T15:51:24","slug":"presence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.chrisrivard.com\/blog\/presence\/","title":{"rendered":"Presence"},"content":{"rendered":"

For some reason I thought Amy Cuddy had written another book and Presence<\/a> was her blockbuster follow-up… but I think *this* is the book that captures all her research about power poses. First half of the book is a bit too anecdotal for me – I think it’s a pet peeve. Second half\u00a0details\u00a0the results of all the studies that support her research. Excellent.<\/p>\n

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Some notes:<\/p>\n

Anxiety gets sticky and destructive when we start becoming anxious about being anxious. Paradoxically, anxiety also makes us more self-centered, since when we\u2019re acutely anxious, we obsess over ourselves and what others think of us.<\/p>\n

We like our distinctions to be clear\u2014it\u2019s a human bias. So we classify new acquaintances into types. Tiziana Casciaro, in her research into organizations, refers to these types as lovable fools or competent jerks.2 Occasionally we see people as incompetent and cold\u2014foolish jerks\u2014or as warm and competent\u2014lovable stars. The latter is the golden quadrant, because receiving trust and respect from other people allows you to interact well and get things done.<\/p>\n

I am issuing a challenge to all of us, and it\u2019s one that I do not take lightly: Let\u2019s change it. When you see your daughters, sisters, and female friends begin to collapse in on themselves, intervene. Show them examples of girls and women in triumphant postures, moving with a sense of power, speaking with authentic pride. Change the images and stereotypes that kids are exposed to. We don\u2019t need to tell women to be like men. But we do need to encourage girls not to be afraid to express their personal power. Let\u2019s stop thinking about powerful postures as masculine and powerless postures as feminine.<\/p>\n

When we embody shame and powerlessness, we submit to the status quo, whatever that may be. We acquiesce to emotions, actions, and outcomes that we resent. We don\u2019t share who we really are. And all this has real-life consequences.<\/p>\n

The way you carry yourself is a source of personal power\u2014the kind of power that is the key to presence. It\u2019s the key that allows you to unlock yourself\u2014your abilities, your creativity, your courage, and even your generosity. It doesn\u2019t give you skills or talents you don\u2019t have; it helps you to share the ones you do have. It doesn\u2019t make you smarter or better informed; it makes you more resilient and open. It doesn\u2019t change who you are; it allows you to be who you are.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

… and too many more to post. It’s a great read. Here’s the original TED presentation from a few years ago. I’m surprised when I hear people haven’t seen it… so good.<\/p>\n

For another quick and fun read into communication, The Secret Life of Pronouns<\/a> by James Pennebaker.<\/p>\n

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